Couples Gridlock & Gottman Method Repair

What it is. Couples locked in unending arguments over money, parenting, or in-laws experience gridlock-issues that feel unsolvable and trigger Gottman's Four Horsemen: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling.

What the research says. The Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Love Languages all improve attachment security by turning partners toward each other's bids. Recovery requires softer start-ups, ownership of feelings, and respect for core values rather than forced compromise.

How I help. After a 90-minute intake and Gottman Relationship Check-up, we meet weekly to map perpetual problems, replace harsh start-ups with gentle ones, and revive friendship through daily bids and shared meaning rituals. I also weave Bowen work to spot how unhealed family trauma bleeds into present conflict and teach boundary scripts for narcissistic ex-partners or meddling parents.